Tuesday, April 19, 2005 ;
1:52 PM
I came upon this about Confucius about acting wise....
He had a devoted disciple by the name of Zi Lu, who by nature was courageous but brash. He once asked Confucius: " When we hear a good proposal, should we put it to practice at once?"
The sage replied: "You should always consult someone with more experience."
Later, a student named Ran Yu asked the same question and, to him, Confucius said : "Of course you should put it into practice at once."
A third student who had heard both the answers was puzzled - there was apparent contradiction! So he queried Confucius about it.
The sage explained that Ran Yu always hesitated when making a decision, so he should be encouraged to be bolder. Zi Lu, however, always made hasty decisions and so should be reminded to be cautious. And that was why, to different people, he would give different answers.
Okay ~ so here is what i say. Ever since from young i always took care of other people's feelings nd if i would could, i readily sacrifice my time just to make that person happy or smile. And when there are times my frens got probs, i would always try to come up with answers to suit them. my answers are always different to each person but i din notice that until Chuncky pointed that out to me last year. what i wanted to do is to relieve them so my answers and my actions are always made on the spot without prior reference to anything before. At first all these worked fine, until i made that disastrous mistake, just to accomodate the situation. i lost 2 frens because of that not counting the many others who would look at me differently now. hey peeps, do u call him a sage because of all these crap he is talking? have you ever got yourself into such a big trouble until u felt as though the sky has fallen on you and nothing is left for you to aim for? can you explain why people are so willing to go through a second time, knowing that it will end up much worse than before? why is it that i, after so long, still unable to let go this damn thing? tell me why.... and cure me of this. i'm sick.
light my way ♥
